Comments for Fe ... a life http://fe.org.au Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:30:54 +1100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by Frogdancer http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2974 Frogdancer Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:30:54 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2974 You're so close to the time when the boys will absolutely refuse to go. One of my sons is already there. It's distressing on a lot of levels... but when the kids are adult sized there's no way anyone can make them do what they don't want to do. No one can make you pay anything with money that doesn't exist. Hang in there. Things are so close to getting calmer. (Though I WILL say that your ex is disgusting. Still... it could be worse. Imagine if he still lived with you all??? Ugh!) You’re so close to the time when the boys will absolutely refuse to go.
One of my sons is already there. It’s distressing on a lot of levels… but when the kids are adult sized there’s no way anyone can make them do what they don’t want to do.
No one can make you pay anything with money that doesn’t exist. Hang in there. Things are so close to getting calmer.
(Though I WILL say that your ex is disgusting. Still… it could be worse. Imagine if he still lived with you all??? Ugh!)

]]> Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by Rita http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2973 Rita Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:47:03 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2973 Fe, Like Brenda said breathe. As all the hurt and anguish pass give some thought to this. Your x is a mean and uncaring man. If the boys would like life better without him for now is there a way that could work? My daughter was 12 when we divorced and my x very much like yours. Is there a chance that you can live without his income. Yes, it means living on the poorer side. But oh so much happier. Is there a way your parents could give bits here and there to help with the boys. If it is possible to just mention (not in writing) that if he will sign off the boys you will give up the money. I do not know if this is even possible. Probably not. Give it thought. Maybe ask for only school fees and nothing else? I'm not sure. I only know the less money involved the more your daily life will go back to normal and you and the boys will have much less stress. It's not giving up. It's getting the happiness with your boys that you all deserve. And it makes x a total loser which we know he is. It seems to me if he can have his money he would let you have your boys.......he has no real interest in them. It is obvious in his attitude that he has moved on and feels you are stealing from him which of course you are not but he is not logical. Give it thought. Breathe, get plenty of rest, sleep. Heal from all this and over time see if walking away from x is possible. Many prayers.......I just want you and the boys to find some peace and happiness before the boys are 18. Fe,

Like Brenda said breathe. As all the hurt and anguish pass give some thought to this. Your x is a mean and uncaring man. If the boys would like life better without him for now is there a way that could work?

My daughter was 12 when we divorced and my x very much like yours. Is there a chance that you can live without his income. Yes, it means living on the poorer side. But oh so much happier. Is there a way your parents could give bits here and there to help with the boys.

If it is possible to just mention (not in writing) that if he will sign off the boys you will give up the money. I do not know if this is even possible. Probably not. Give it thought. Maybe ask for only school fees and nothing else? I’m not sure. I only know the less money involved the more your daily life will go back to normal and you and the boys will have much less stress.

It’s not giving up. It’s getting the happiness with your boys that you all deserve. And it makes x a total loser which we know he is. It seems to me if he can have his money he would let you have your boys…….he has no real interest in them. It is obvious in his attitude that he has moved on and feels you are stealing from him which of course you are not but he is not logical. Give it thought.

Breathe, get plenty of rest, sleep. Heal from all this and over time see if walking away from x is possible.

Many prayers…….I just want you and the boys to find some peace and happiness before the boys are 18.

]]> Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by Mark http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2971 Mark Thu, 11 Mar 2010 09:04:04 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2971 Oh Fe. Oh Fe.

]]> Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by Brenda http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2970 Brenda Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:41:43 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2970 Oh jeez, really DH is one gigantic pain the neck ahole! Argh! Breathe in, breathe out Fe. And lotsa lotsa hugs. See you next weekend.xoxoxo Oh jeez, really DH is one gigantic pain the neck ahole! Argh!

Breathe in, breathe out Fe. And lotsa lotsa hugs. See you next weekend.xoxoxo

]]> Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by sooz http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2969 sooz Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:36:14 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2969 Oh Fe. I just don't know what to say. There isn't anything good in what's happening, and I can't pretend there is. It's too exhausting even reading about so I can only imagine how completely shredded you feel. While I can offer you no solace for what's going on, I can say with utter conviction (and I hope it is at least a little comfort to you) that you are nearing the end. A year or two will seem like forever, but it will end. And then the three of you will have a lifetime ahead of you in which he will be an ever diminishing figure. There will be lots of good moments in amongst the darkness and a future you can enjoy. You have that to look forward to, and no matter what happens now, it can't touch that. xxx Oh Fe. I just don’t know what to say. There isn’t anything good in what’s happening, and I can’t pretend there is. It’s too exhausting even reading about so I can only imagine how completely shredded you feel. While I can offer you no solace for what’s going on, I can say with utter conviction (and I hope it is at least a little comfort to you) that you are nearing the end. A year or two will seem like forever, but it will end. And then the three of you will have a lifetime ahead of you in which he will be an ever diminishing figure. There will be lots of good moments in amongst the darkness and a future you can enjoy. You have that to look forward to, and no matter what happens now, it can’t touch that. xxx

]]> Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by sarah (the other one) http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2968 sarah (the other one) Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:21:49 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2968 oh jesus. what a fuckwit. when can the kids legally emancipate from a parent? it makes me sick too. why does he want the responsibilty now ? whats in it for him? I really hope that you have not broken your elbow. Let me know if we can help in anyway. lots of love hugs and kisses from all of us. oh jesus. what a fuckwit.
when can the kids legally emancipate from a parent?
it makes me sick too. why does he want the responsibilty now ? whats in it for him?
I really hope that you have not broken your elbow. Let me know if we can help in anyway. lots of love hugs and kisses from all of us.

]]> Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by Jennie http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2967 Jennie Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:17:29 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2967 Oh, for PUCKS sake! Do these people think money grows on trees? Dear dear Fe, I'm with you all the way, and I simply cannot believe what I'm reading. There is no common sense anymore. I'm thinking, what interest does any judge have in letting DH get away with his requests?! Is someone getting bribed. It just seems so illogical. Hope that elbow gets better, quick. Just what you needed. xxxxxxx Oh, for PUCKS sake! Do these people think money grows on trees? Dear dear Fe, I’m with you all the way, and I simply cannot believe what I’m reading. There is no common sense anymore. I’m thinking, what interest does any judge have in letting DH get away with his requests?! Is someone getting bribed. It just seems so illogical. Hope that elbow gets better, quick. Just what you needed. xxxxxxx

]]> Comment on I think I need time to take this all in… by peskypixies http://fe.org.au/2010/03/11/i-think-i-need-time-to-take-this-all-in/comment-page-1/#comment-2966 peskypixies Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:17:14 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=757#comment-2966 OMG! I dont have any words right now. just know I am sending tons of love your way. OMG!

I dont have any words right now.

just know I am sending tons of love your way.

]]> Comment on Breathing Underwater… by Amelia http://fe.org.au/2010/03/10/breathing-underwater/comment-page-1/#comment-2965 Amelia Thu, 11 Mar 2010 03:04:56 +0000 http://fe.org.au/2010/03/10/breathing-underwater/#comment-2965 Thinking of you! Thinking of you!

]]> Comment on Breathing Underwater… by Carleen http://fe.org.au/2010/03/10/breathing-underwater/comment-page-1/#comment-2964 Carleen Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:00:36 +0000 http://fe.org.au/2010/03/10/breathing-underwater/#comment-2964 thinking of you and crossing my everythings for the best out come for you thinking of you and crossing my everythings for the best out come for you

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