Nothing positive to report.
Nope.
Nada.
Zip.
But plenty to report, all the same.
A week ago, I received a letter from the Family Assistance Office ordering me to lodge detailed profit and loss statements with them within 21 days.
I telephoned them to find out why, and to ask for an extension, and apparently this is NOT a computer generated review.
Oh no.
“Somebody” had notified them that I was earning money that I was not declaring, and that, consequently, I was fraudulently receiving Family Tax Benefits.
“Somebody”???
You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to work out that it’s DH taking a first, insanely aggressive, step towards reducing his Child Support obligations AGAIN.
I’m self-employed. And totally disorganised when it comes to my tax returns and book-keeping.
But I’m ANYTHING but fraudulent.
I have declared a projected income which is higher than my real income. A LOT higher.
So, this “review” will end up being in my favour.
But the process is killing me.
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When Toto was born, DH refused to even consider a double-barrelled surname, and so, subservient fool that I was, Toto was registered with DH’s surname only (we shall call it “His”).
When Boo was born, I did not want him to have a different surname to his brother (and I was clinically depressed) and so he, too, has just DH’s surname.
My surname is their 3rd name on their birth certificates.
The fact that DH did not financially support the children, or even try to see them when they were very small, prompted me to change their surname to “Mine-His” before they were even in school.
By the time they were in school, they were registered as “Mine-His” in a category called “Known As”. In other words, their birth certificate and passports have “His” name on them, but everything else has “Mine-His”, including all communications with the Department of Education.
When DH started all of the legal stuff, I tried to include an official “change of name” in the orders. DH refused.
He makes a huge deal out of calling them by his surname only. Which upsets the boys enormously.
Well…. Boo’s school for next year has told me that they refuse to call him “Mine-His” unless they have a stat-dec signed by both parents.
Nevermind that he sat their entrance exam as “Mine-His”. Never mind that ALL his school records are “Mine-His”.
No, they’re standing their ground.
And Boo is devastated.
I’m waiting to hear back from the Headmistress about it… but it doesn’t look good.
Why should he have to suffer like this? Don’t they realise that it’s THEY who are changing his name? Not me!
One of my brothers changed his christian name when he was in Kindergarten. He literally came home and told my parents that his name was now something else.
He did not change it by de-pol until he was an adult, but was “known as” his new name all the way through school and university.
I do not understand why this school has taken such an officious stand on this simple problem.
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