Having to take my boys back to DH’s for their THIRD week away from me was just too much this morning.
We were all tired from having stayed up to see the midnight fireworks.
And I simply lost it.
I found things to be cranky about, and I couldn’t stop crying. I still can’t.
Which made it SO hard for my poor boys.
I explained to them that it was all about having to take them back, and missing them so much when they’re not here, but that doesn’t make it okay.
According to them, DH goes to work every day, and has people over every night. They feel like his servants as he tells them what to do in front of his guests, and gets furious if they answer back or tell him that they don’t want to do it.
They spent a lot of time telling me how much they hate being with him for this amount of time.
I know that I should be encouraging them to enjoy their time with him, but the best that I can do is to listen and withhold my opinion. It is SO difficult.
Only one more week, and then I have them back with me where they belong.
One more week.
Right now that feels like an interminable amount of time.
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My dear ill friend, her husband and their youngest child, came over to watch the 9pm fireworks with us last night. My brother, s-i-l, nephew and one of my oldest friends, his son and his friend also came over. My parents were in good form and it really was a lovely little celebratory gathering.
As a tribute to my Dad, and the way that he developed his Ilford black and white film in the 1970’s… I give you my favourite people.. taken in the very first hour of 2010…
Only one more week….
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Oh Fe. So, so hard. I don’t know if I would be able to be as strong as you are. I don’t know what I would do but I can’t imagine how I would comply with an order to force my kids to stay at their father’s. It would just about kill me. One more week, hon.
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I know it is hard, and I know they hate it, and that you hate it, but they will be OK Fe. You need to try and hold onto the thought that this experience will make them stronger men. You can’t take this trial away for them, but they will find ways to manage it and to learn from it and you can be proud of them for that.
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Like I said in my last comment… there will come a time when they’re too old to be forced to go and see him and they’ll simply stop. Until then, just hang on and keep putting one foot in front of the other. The kids sound like they’ve already got him pretty much worked out, and one day they’ll make a decision for themselves.
(That doesn’t make the present that much easier though…. sorry.)
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here’s to a better 2010! I wish for you the finest of days Fe! ♥
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you are amazing matey le xoxoxo
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Oh what lovely pictures. The last one brought a tear to my eye. Special. Here’s to a better everything.
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Those photos are beautiful – they will go into the special memories box…..and hopefully they will be the times you remember, not the partings & time those wonderful boys of yours aren’t with you.
HappY wishes throughout the New Year -
oh hon,
its so hard…………my heart breaks for youlots of hugs and as Dory would say
“just keep swimming,just keep swimming,just keep swimming,just keep swimming,just keep swimming” -
Fe,
So sorry you are going through all this very hard stuff. Also, very thankful for the good things. The black and white photo’s are fabulous! Take care girl. I’m praying for you. -
Such nice pix
Happy new year!
Happy blogoversary!
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