Comments on: My oxygen mask… http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/ Wed, 16 May 2012 05:02:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: le http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2750 le Fri, 01 Jan 2010 12:15:49 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2750 hello fe dearest ... have you read the secret ... I am reading it at present ... jury is still out ... but it makes some good points ... worth a look if you can get past some of the waffle bits ... it has reminded me of a few home truths ... 2010 will be what we make it - as always :) and you make it good Fe so don't fret :) my best to you le xo hello fe dearest …

have you read the secret … I am reading it at present … jury is still out … but it makes some good points … worth a look if you can get past some of the waffle bits … it has reminded me of a few home truths …

2010 will be what we make it – as always :) and you make it good Fe so don’t fret :) my best to you le xo

]]> By: Frogdancer http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2745 Frogdancer Thu, 31 Dec 2009 22:11:25 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2745 I loved this post. For a few different reasons, this year has been an incredibly difficult one at our place. I ended the year exhausted and emotionally very depleted. So what did I do? Packed up one of the boys, (the one who has elected not to go and spend time with his father any more) and we went to Singapore for 6 days. We needed time out, surrounded by different sights, smells and sounds, and even though it was a stupid financial decision, we've come back refreshed and ready for whatever may come our way this year. It ended up being a 'selfish' thing to do which is probably a very UNselfish thing I've done when I look at the bigger picture of running our lives here. I'm no longer running on empty. (The son I took with me is 16. My other boys are still happy to spend time with their father, but he has decided that he no longer wants to see him. The kids make up their own minds about things as they get older... you'll see!) I loved this post. For a few different reasons, this year has been an incredibly difficult one at our place. I ended the year exhausted and emotionally very depleted. So what did I do?

Packed up one of the boys, (the one who has elected not to go and spend time with his father any more) and we went to Singapore for 6 days. We needed time out, surrounded by different sights, smells and sounds, and even though it was a stupid financial decision, we’ve come back refreshed and ready for whatever may come our way this year. It ended up being a ‘selfish’ thing to do which is probably a very UNselfish thing I’ve done when I look at the bigger picture of running our lives here. I’m no longer running on empty.

(The son I took with me is 16. My other boys are still happy to spend time with their father, but he has decided that he no longer wants to see him. The kids make up their own minds about things as they get older… you’ll see!)

]]> By: Blue http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2744 Blue Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:11:07 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2744 "Remember to secure your own mask before assisting others." Before I became a flight attendant, I would hear this instruction and think "How selfish! You want me to take care of my OWN comfort before I help my baby?!" I naively assumed I could simply hold my breath in a decompression, and help my child before putting my own mask on. I had no idea what I would be risking if I did that. Distinguishing between needs and wants then is the key. 2009 was a super hard year. But we made it! Things ARE working out after all, and at the end of the day, the journey IS the reward. Hope 2010 has more joy in the journey! ♥ “Remember to secure your own mask before assisting others.”

Before I became a flight attendant, I would hear this instruction and think “How selfish! You want me to take care of my OWN comfort before I help my baby?!” I naively assumed I could simply hold my breath in a decompression, and help my child before putting my own mask on. I had no idea what I would be risking if I did that.

Distinguishing between needs and wants then is the key. 2009 was a super hard year. But we made it! Things ARE working out after all, and at the end of the day, the journey IS the reward. Hope 2010 has more joy in the journey! ♥

]]> By: MissyBoo http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2743 MissyBoo Thu, 31 Dec 2009 14:46:10 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2743 And Happy New Year to you to. I hope you find a way to replenish your emotional tanks and rid yourself of the guilt. xoxox And Happy New Year to you to. I hope you find a way to replenish your emotional tanks and rid yourself of the guilt.
xoxox

]]> By: Ali http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2742 Ali Thu, 31 Dec 2009 13:04:05 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2742 Happy New Year, lovely Fe. You know I value you right back. Learning to care for yourself is incredibly hard after a lifetime of giving. It will make all the difference though. Those are some beautiful boys you have there. xx Happy New Year, lovely Fe. You know I value you right back. Learning to care for yourself is incredibly hard after a lifetime of giving. It will make all the difference though.
Those are some beautiful boys you have there.
xx

]]> By: Brenda http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2741 Brenda Thu, 31 Dec 2009 12:29:19 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2741 Hear hear! Backatcha Fe. Wubs u lots.Brenda Hear hear! Backatcha Fe. Wubs u lots.Brenda

]]> By: sooz http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2740 sooz Thu, 31 Dec 2009 10:40:12 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2740 And to you! A great 2010 should be coming your way if there's any cosmic reasoning going on. Good luck! Have you read Buddhism for Mothers? You may find it useful on the mindfulness and presence front. I dip into it all the time when I need a refresher in keeping myself strong. And to you! A great 2010 should be coming your way if there’s any cosmic reasoning going on. Good luck!

Have you read Buddhism for Mothers? You may find it useful on the mindfulness and presence front. I dip into it all the time when I need a refresher in keeping myself strong.

]]> By: Rita http://fe.org.au/2009/12/31/my-oxygen-mask/comment-page-1/#comment-2739 Rita Thu, 31 Dec 2009 08:43:51 +0000 http://fe.org.au/?p=670#comment-2739 What handsome young men you have. I wanted to say beautiful boys but they may not like it said that way. :) You are so right about being instead of trying. I am one who did not understand and gave until there was no "me" left. I tried to take care of me but others did not see that I was depleted. I'd say it like this. If your parents are supporting you in any way take it and use it for your needs. Stay calm as possible. Pray, lean on God if you can. Smile often.....laugh often.... You do a great job with it all. Rest as much as you can. Sleep to heal your body. Don't keep pushing when you have the chance to rest. These years with the boys will pass fast. The boys would rather have a happy mom than one who can give them all their wants. I just love your blog. I feel so proud of you for the way you get through all this and carry on. Rita What handsome young men you have. I wanted to say beautiful boys but they may not like it said that way. :)

You are so right about being instead of trying. I am one who did not understand and gave until there was no “me” left. I tried to take care of me but others did not see that I was depleted.

I’d say it like this. If your parents are supporting you in any way take it and use it for your needs. Stay calm as possible. Pray, lean on God if you can. Smile often…..laugh often…. You do a great job with it all. Rest as much as you can. Sleep to heal your body. Don’t keep pushing when you have the chance to rest. These years with the boys will pass fast. The boys would rather have a happy mom than one who can give them all their wants.

I just love your blog. I feel so proud of you for the way you get through all this and carry on.

Rita

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