Comments on: Reality…

By: Jennie

Jennie — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 09:03:11 +0000

Upon reading Boo’s comment, I spontaneously burst into tears. I was just three or four when my mom starting slowly going blind. She was at medical school, and had all the drugs lined up, that could take her out of this world. I knew this, without knowing of course, and found all sorts of games and devices that actually kept her from doing it. I’m afraid that has left very deep emotional marks to this day. I really pray that you all are strong enough to carry on without these dark clouds even though I know your burden is heavy.

I cannot fathom why your family has been dealt this awful hand, but I really admire you for forging ahead. I too, think it is best to pursue this case, so you have absolutely no doubt that you did all you could. Best of luck.

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 05:35:01 +0000

Ouch…. my heart goes out to you again. I can’t understand how the legal system can be so f*cked up as to do this.

By: trish

trish — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 05:16:55 +0000

Fe, your parents are as awesome as you.
I am praying for your mum and I guess your decision has already been made so I’ll pray for success !

By: dancingmorganmouse

dancingmorganmouse — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:21:32 +0000

O dear, there’s nothing to say except what you must already know, the law is not about justice. And your poor boys and your poor mum. Virtual hugs to you from a stranger over the interweb xx

By: Wen

Wen — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 17:14:24 +0000

I’m with Jeff. WTF! The judicial registrar can change a court document after the fact. How is this possible??? I know that going through this again is SO not what you want right now. However, I still think it is a good idea (easy for me to say!).

By: Jeff D'Antonio

Jeff D'Antonio — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:41:07 +0000

So Sorry to hear about your mum. Best wishes to her for a quick recovery with no complications.

Fwiw, I think you made the right decision to pursue justice in spite of the risk. Regardless of any laws that may have changed, and regardless of whether the original court order is valid or not, DH still needs to be held responsible for the financial support of his children. I can’t believe any judge would find otherwise, and I can’t believe any judge would just throw out the original court order and declare it invalid, rather than amending or restructuring it to conform to the current laws. I’m no legal expert, but that just strikes me as either laziness or corruption. And the fact that his summation can be changed after the fact? WTF?? Apparently a judge has the power to rewrite history in the interest of protecting his own ass, but he doesn’t have the power to amend a court order in the interest of providing justice to those he is sworn to serve. Fucked up doesn’t even begin to describe a system like that.

Regardless of the outcome, when this is all over (and I promise you it WILL be over eventually, even though it probably doesn’t seem that way to you right now), you will be able to sleep at night knowing that you did everything you possibly could within the limits of a fucked up legal system. I don’t know how DH can sleep at night knowing that he took advantage of that system for his own financial gain, to the detriment of his own children. That kind of thinking is something that I just will never hope to be able to understand.

What a horrible feeling it must have been for you to hear that question from Boo. They pick up on the slightest little cues, and can so easily misinterpret things. Just keep reassuring him. He’ll be okay.

All the best to you and your family.

By: kim at allconsuming

kim at allconsuming — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 11:35:02 +0000

I just have no words. No words at all.

By: M

Wed, 16 Sep 2009 11:18:38 +0000

Oh cripes, Boo. His comment to you really got to me.

By: Peskypixies

Peskypixies — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 09:19:28 +0000

oh gosh.you are much braver woman than me……..my ex owed me money but made my life hell so I recinded the order.

massive hugs

just breathe…….ok?just breathe…………and take one minute at a time if thats what gets you through.

I am so pleased you have your family there to support you.

more hugs

By: M & B

M & B — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 08:39:06 +0000

So sorry to hear that your mum is not so good.

Even sorrier to hear you are not doing so great. The family law courts continue to surprise me at their unjustness. That they weren’t fair in the first place and puttting you in the situation of making a huge decision such as gambling on whether or not they will play fair or not, infuriates me.

Thinking of you xoxox